his is a weird piece to write because I’m actually in an incredibly happy relationship. I’m talking gross happy. Like if I don’t see my partner all day and he walks in the door I launch myself at him and cover him in kisses (that was a lie I usually hump him because it’s funnier). We’re best mates, we hardly ever fight and we laugh together every single day. It’s pretty bloody blissful. There’s a bucket in the corner over there if you need to puke. We’ve been together for almost a decade and although I wouldn’t have it any other way, I do sometimes think about what it would be like to be single.
My partner and I travel a lot. Sometimes together and sometimes apart but every few months I get a week or so alone in our flat and it makes me realise how, under different circumstances, I could quite easily be just as happy flying solo… here’s why I miss being single.
I would get so much more done
Whenever my partner is away I feel like I get given an extra 5 hours in the day. It’s not that he’s a giant time suck, it’s just that when you’re in a couple there’s lots of reciprocal waiting. Waiting for the shower, waiting while each other packs up their stuff before leaving the house, waiting for each other to wake up on the weekends, waiting until the other person gets home before you can go somewhere. It’s not bad and I don’t resent it but being single is like living in an amazing time machine that that you’re the driver of. It’s wondrous.
I wouldn’t have to be considerate
If I lived alone, I’d crank my music really loudly in the morning and sing like a moron in the shower. Although my partner wouldn’t mind if I did this, it’s a bit rude to go full Courtney Love at 6am when he’s trying to sleep. When he’s not around I pump my favourite tunes, eat all the chocolate without saving him any and watch hours and hours of shit shows he hates… and it’s awesome.
My time would be my own
When my man is away I never have to stand around for half an hour in camera stores while he looks at tripods. I never have to watch Top Gear. I never have to turn down the TV when his phone rings and I never have to stop at the shops on the way home because he’s run out of deodorant. Not that I mind doing any of the above, I really don’t, it’s just that when those things disappear for a weekend, I end up with all this stuff called ‘spare time’… and I like it.
Again, I don’t want to sound like I resent being in a relationship. That’s the opposite of how I feel but relationships take a lot of work and a hell of a lot of compromise, even the really, really good ones. I’m grateful for my guy every single day and I wouldn’t choose any other life than the one I have with him but honestly? I love my ‘single’ weekends and if my life had worked out differently and I had never met my partner, I could see myself having a pretty fabulous solo life.
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Are you single? Coupled up? What do you miss about the opposite of your current relationship status?
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