I was scrolling through my Facebook feed last night and an article popped up about a high class call girl who went on Sunrise and told the viewers that she was providing a public service of sorts, through her business. She was saying that by having sex with married men, she was actually helping their marriages. She claims men come to her because they’re lacking something in their relationship and by filling that void, she’s able to help them keep their marriages intact… or something.
I can’t say I agree with her (I think regular date nights, cups of tea, communication and a little x-rated cuddling can fix a fair whack of relationship issues) but what really shocked me was the barrage of nasty comments in the Facebook feed basically calling her a home-wrecking whore. Most of these comments have been deleted (presumably by the admin) but I witnessed one comment of ‘filthy slut’ with 14 likes before it disappeared.
I may be approaching this with a simplistic view but I think if a man decides to engage the services of a sex worker, his decision has absolutely nothing to do with the sex worker. She is providing a service for which there is ample demand. Sex work is literally one of the oldest professions and it’s highly unlikely to go anywhere while there’s still a healthy market for it. It’s a business transaction, particularly in the ‘high class’ arena where working girls are less likely to have drug dependencies or pimps and are often savvy businesswomen selling a highly profitable product.
I thought very carefully about this and if I discovered that Mr Smaggle had sought the services of a call girl (highly unlikely because he doesn’t really like being touched by people he doesn’t know and also he’s very excellent), I honestly don’t think I’d give a crap who the prostitute was or lay any blame on her whatsoever. Honestly, I wouldn’t have time in-between throwing all his stuff off the balcony and speed dialling my girlfriends to organise a truckload of vodka and sympathetic ears to be delivered to my house immediately.
The 14 likes on the ‘filthy whore’ comment really bothered me. That’s 14 people who quickly agreed with those hateful and quite frankly misdirected words. The fact that a husband cheated on his wife has nothing to do with her. She was doing her job. She wasn’t pursuing this man or trying to steal him away from his family. He came to her and paid her for a service. I do think she’s deluded in thinking that she’s some kind of high-class magical therapist hooker but that’s not the point.
The bottom line is that I don’t think that sex workers are home-wrecking whores. The men that pay them for sex, betraying their wives and families are the ones that wreck homes. The sex worker hasn’t even seen these homes she’s supposedly wrecking. If there exists a ‘filthy slut’ in this situation, the sex worker certainly isn’t it.
What are your thoughts?