I was having a drink with some girlfriends a few nights ago and they mentioned that they used to hate each other. Hard. They now live together for maybe the third time in their lives and are BFFs of the first order.

I realised that my BFF (AKA Co-Dependant Smaggle) and I didn’t exactly hit it off on the right foot either when we first met ten years ago. My Best Guy Friend and I had been cast in the same musical and were having a freaking ball. We’d sit in my car in the freezing cold after rehearsal and talk until 3am and get kicked out of dance practice for behaving like children. It was rad. Then all of a sudden this chick rocks up to be his dance partner and he can’t stop talking about how awesome she is. ‘She’s so smart! She’s so clever! She’s so pretty!‘. My little green eyed monster came out to play* and I was all ‘But… I’M your bestie! Not HER!’. Anyway to cut a very long and convoluted story short they started sleeping together about a nano second after I had that thought and when she was no longer threatening my position of Super Awesome Friend and was instead Super Awesome Girlfriend, I realised that she too was rad and ten years later we’re still BFFs. And Best Guy Friend is still her boyfriend. Naaaaaaawwwww.

Similarly I used to work in a newsagent with this Danish woman who I thought was horrible. She used to demand that I make her cups of tea and she’d say really weird things to me sometimes. Within 6 months I realised she was just a really straight shooter with a heart of gold and from then on we loved each other. She still works at the newsagent and to this day she still asks my mother to send her love and I haven’t worked there in 11 years.

This had me wondering if you guys have had a similar situation?

Do you have a significant friendship that started in mutual dislike? How did it turn around in the end?

* In my defence, neither of them knew I felt this way until years later and I was also 18 at the time and not very brilliant at realising that people can be friends with more than one person at a time.